A few years back, I sold almost all of my fancier dresses because my criteria for buying dresses were:
-Ability to pass off as normal clothes or be seen as a “quirky dress”
The machine washable criterion has still remained to a certain extent and I’ve been getting braver about dunking my dresses in cold water to hand wash. So far I haven’t had bad luck but one day I have a feeling it’s going to bite me in the ass.
Anyway, I digress.
The thing is, I really love opulence, but I think I forget about this every now and then. Whenever I rewatch my favourite movie, Amadeus, it reminds me of how much I love lush looking fabrics, vibrant colours, tons of lace, and where the idea of “go big or go home” reigns supreme. This side of me battles with my more practical side that says, “YOU DON’T NEED THESE DRESSES BECAUSE YOU DON’T EVEN WEAR SOME OF THEM ONCE A YEAR.”, and while that is correct, I can’t resist the frills and the oh-so-pretty things with tons of detail and lovely fabrics.
In addition to wanting to look somewhat like the beautifully dressed characters on Amadeus, I also want to look like a young girl from the 1900s or some ~classic lolita maiden~ (lol). I think that Dear Margaret’s catalogue pictures for Modern Lady II best exemplifies what I want to look like. And of course, thrown into this is my desire to tone down these dresses as much as possible so that the most people will say about what I’m wearing is “Cute dress. I like the print.”
My lolita collection is getting way too large, my closet can’t contain all my frills, and I’m starting to not even know what kind of things I want. I need to prune my collection but don’t know where to start! Some of the things I bought recently are things that don’t even fit into the three largest categories in regards to how my lolita whims go, so perhaps those things are the ones that should go first?
I have no idea what possessed me to buy this. I was so sure that I wasn’t going to buy it and then suddenly I did. Maybe I’ll like it? I think the colourway being similar to Fantasic Dolly sucked me in.
A decision I made a few days ago is that I’m going to stop trying to buy everything on my wishlist and to prune it because my wishlist is RIDICULOUS. I also decided that outside of my wishlist items, I’m going to try not to buy anything secondhand and I’m actually going to cut down looking at secondhand websites and auctions. Because of the crazy secondhand prices that a lot of dresses are going for these days, I also decided that I’m going to buy everything straight from the brand rather than trying to hunt things down later since the price might be something ridiculous.
I’ve noticed that my shopping habits have changed as well. Before, I would dislike using shopping services and resorted to them as last resort, but now, if I can’t get a shopping service, I decide to miss out on the item because trying to get it myself is such a huge hassle. My wallet groans but I prefer not getting all fidgety over these dresses and getting miffed every time the server crashes. I also now send in a maximum bid to my shopping services for auctions and ask them to snipe bid rather than me staying up wee hours of the night trying to snipe bid myself. The reason I do this is because I realized that I spend less doing so (before, I used to end up bidding more than I intended because I got caught up on bidding) and also because I have to wake up early for work lol.